Every child deserves a place where he or she is in control. Not a home where a child tyrant is suffered, no not at all. But a place in their young life where they are allowed to make choices about what to do and how to spend time and even how to spend a little bit of money. Children who are allowed and encouraged to choose the day’s wardrobe, wear, the colors to draw with or the height of block buildings learn important things about themselves; especially when parents stand by supporting safe choices. Often that is not the case. Far too often parents make decisions based on their own comfort, expediency, or need to accomplish.

The loss of innocence occurs when  hurried parents lose focus and the soul of a child is chipped away. In difficult times, without conscious intention, parental influences permanently change the…